6 Steps to Getting Back With Your Ex

Are you going to break up? Are your emotions all over the place because your relationship is coming to an end? Or has your relationship already ended and you’re having a tough time accepting break up?

Maybe you didn’t want your relationship to end. Maybe you’re really hoping deep down inside that you will be able to get back together with your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend at some point in the near future.

If you’re going to get your ex back, you’re going to need to know the steps to take in order to win them back for good.

Although, if your a serial dater like me, you probably just move onto one of these websites and meet someone new.  But, I know that all of our hearts are in different stages of life, so for those of you thirsting for the chance to make that old relationship spark up again, here’s your six steps to take to give it your best chance.

Getting Back With Your Ex

Getting Back Together With Your Ex

If you are really depressed and heartbroken and have had enough of being alone, you probably understand that the process of getting together with your ex is not going to be an easy one, but it is possible if you implement the steps that are being shared with you today.

This complicated process is far from confusing if you take the necessary steps to win back the heart of your ex.

We will cover many of the things that you need to know in order to deal with any particular circumstance that might come your way.

Are you ready to learn the truth?

Then let’s take a look at the steps that you need to take in order to win back your ex.

Step #1: Come to Terms with Your Break Up

At this stage of the game, you have to freely begin to accept the reality of your situation. You are no longer together with your ex. Please come to grips with it right now.

For many people, it’s often tough to accept the fact that they are no longer in a relationship with the person that they want to spend the most time with.

One of the biggest mistakes that you can make is that you deny the fact that you are actually broken up with your ex.

If you continue to pretend or try to convince yourself that nothing negative actually happened, you’ll have an even harder time getting through this phase of your relationship troubles.

As a matter of fact, this type of wishful thinking is only going to make things much worse for your particular situation.

So stop pretending like the relationship is still going on.

Recognize the fact that it really has come to an end, at least temporarily, and know that you are no longer with this person even though you have plans of getting back with them at some point.

Step #2: Give Your Ex Enough Time and Space to Get over the Break Up

If you’ve been in a previously long relationship, your ex is going to have a difficult time getting over your break up, even if he or she happened to be the one that initiated it in the first place.

It’s never easy getting over a lost love.

This often takes time, space, and a moment alone to accept that the relationship is over.

Some people have a tendency to act too fast at this point and try to reach out to their ex in an effort to gain closure.

While this might seem like a good idea on the surface, it’s absolutely the wrong thing to do.

Yes, you may deserve an explanation and you may deserve closure to find out why you actually broke up in the first place.

But you definitely need to start resisting these urges. You need to put this type of thinking into the back of your mind, because you need to give your ex space and time to deal with this situation.

So stop trying to get answers. Stop trying to seek closure.

Instead, you should accept the fact that the only thing you’ll really be doing is pestering your ex at this point, and it’s highly unlikely that you’ll be able to get the closure that you deserve at this stage of the game anyway.

So forget about it for now.

If you truly want to get back with your ex, your best bet is to cut off all communication at this point.

During this no contact period, you need to stay away from them for around three or four weeks, and maybe even longer if you had a long relationship.

Why no contact?

Well, the longer you stay away from your ex, the longer he or she is going to begin missing you.

And that’s exactly what you want if you ever want a chance at winning this person back. You need them to get to a point where they miss you so much that they actually initiate the contact with you.

Even if they pretend that they are contacting you for something in particular, you can bet your bottom dollar that they are really contacting you because they want to see you, talk to you, smell you, and be in your presence once again.

Step #3: Move on and Live Your Life

During the no contact phase, it’s important that you actually move on and begin to live your life.

But you have to do it strategically if you really want to win your ex back.

As you go about living your life, make sure that your ex’s friends and people that he or she knows will see you out at the bar, club, or other social events that the two of you used to do together.

If your ex realizes that you are living and enjoying your life again, it could certainly create a situation where he or she gets jealous of you.

They probably thought you were sitting at home alone, moping and having a difficult time getting over the breakup. Instead, you’re showing them that you have moved on and are living your life to the fullest.

Step #4: Take It a Step Further and Start Dating

Even better, if you really want to get your ex jealous, you need to start dating again and make sure that he or she finds out.

Why is this so effective?


This is the whole reason why it’s effective.

Nobody wants to feel unwanted. And by you moving on relatively quickly, that’s the kind of jealous feeling that it’s going to bring about in your ex.

Before long, they’ll be banging down your door in a jealous rage. They are going to be mad at you, but they are only going to be mad because they really want you back.

Step #5: Carefully Reinitiate Contact

Now that you’ve done your job and made your ex jealous, it’s time to start making contact with him or her again.

This brief guideline should help you pull this off without making any mistakes:

  • Make your first contact very short, do it via text or over the phone, and only make it last two minutes.
  • When you talk to your ex for the first time via call or text, sound upbeat, positive, and happy to be alive.
  • Avoid all serious conversations during the initial first contact.
  • Try not to sound all that excited to talk to them during this first conversation.
  • And most important of all, do not mention anything about getting back together.

Step #6: The Art of Seduction

Now that you and your ex are back on speaking terms, it’s time to start seducing him or her again.

But take it slow. Do not try and rush anything or try some new sex position. Otherwise you may scare away your ex and permanently destroy your chances of ever getting back together with them again.



Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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