Acceptance of a Break Up

We often have a number of different things that we experience in life that are really difficult to handle and accept including taxes, getting old, dying, and breaking up.

When you’re in a serious relationship and it comes to an end, this experience is often very traumatic for both parties involved.

And it’s often really difficult to accept in the beginning during the short term, and this is especially true if you were blindsided and didn’t see the break up coming.

Breaking Up Seemingly Out Of Nowhere

It’s really difficult to handle when this happens.

One moment, your relationship is going along very smoothly, and everything seems perfectly fine.

You’re getting along with your partner, you both seem to love each other, you’re nice to one another, and you really thought that you were going to be in this relationship for the long haul.

Then when you least expect it, your significant other tells you completely out of the blue that it’s over. And in that moment, it feels like your heart is being ripped out for your chest and all of your happy memories and expectations suddenly crumble to dust.

Hollywood Brainwashing

Everybody loves watching romantic comedies and other romantic movies and TV shows.

The romance industry has practically poisoned and brainwashed us into believing that all relationships are going to end up in a happily ever after scenario.

Generally speaking, we all lead dull and fairly colorless lives. We hardly ever experience the kind of adventure and excitement that you’ll find on TV or in the movies.

Yet, we still have the opportunity to meet a great person. And when we meet this great person, at least in the beginning it’s going to change everything. We are going to be happy, excited about life, and looking forward to our every waking moment.

But remember, this is just how a relationship typically begins.

Over time, things are going to become routine, they are going to settle down into a measure of normalcy, and what may have seemed like magic in the very beginning is going to become your normal day-to-day life.

According to Hollywood, every relationship should have fire, passion, excitement, energy, and entertainment 24/7/365 for the rest of your life.

We’ve all been brainwashed into believing that our relationships are meant to last forever, they are meant to make our life more exciting than they ever could be, and that if your relationship isn’t this way you’re doing something wrong.

Think about this for a second though…

Trying to live in a relationship like that is putting a lot of pressure on you and your significant other.

Nobody could live up to those incredible expectations, and nobody should ever have to attempt to even try.

That’s basically a fairy tale in the making, and Hollywood has the right to make stories like this because they are exciting and fun to watch.

Guess what? They are in reality!

And you have to remember this at all times, otherwise you’re going to be incredibly disappointed with each and every one of your relationships from here on out unless you change your ways and your thinking.

Eventually, the magic will wear off as we’ve previously mentioned, and your routine will become your normal life.

At some point, you might realize that you and your current significant other aren’t really a good fit. You aren’t going to stay together forever. And it may be better off if you finally just broke up and moved on with your lives to find somebody new.

How to Accept a Break up in the Best Possible Ways

Now that you realize all relationships aren’t some exaggerated Hollywood story, it’s time to accept that you and your current partner might not be right for each other.

But how do you do that?

Well, there are a few things that you can do.

To start this off, I really want you to begin focusing on yourself and nobody else for a little while.

Now I’m not telling you to be completely selfish and block everybody out of your life. That would be unhealthy for you or your friends and family members.

On the contrary, I want you to keep your current familial and friendly relationships strong, but I also want you to start taking some time out of your day to think about what it is that you want out of life.

You need to begin focusing on your personal wants, needs, and desires.

If you can do this, then you’ll begin to discover that there is a fun and exciting life beyond your previously unsuccessful relationship.

It is possible to begin living again.

And once you finally achieve that level of acceptance, and you start to do things for yourself once again, you’ll have a much easier time getting over your recent break up.

Next, I want you to realize that you aren’t going to achieve instant results. You aren’t going to get over your break up immediately, and this is especially true if you’re just getting out of a long-term relationship.

But you have to get out there in the world. You have to start living your life again, interacting with other people at your favorite bar, club, movie theater, trivia group, or anywhere else that you can think of that excites you.

Once you start living your life as a single person again, you will slowly but surely become used to it, and your feelings of inadequacy and those feelings of missing your previous partner will progressively begin to dissipate and eventually go away altogether.

At first, you need to accept that you are broken up with your partner in a broad sense of the word.

It might still seem like a difficult experience. And you do not necessarily have to be happy about the break up, but if you can accept it broadly, you will begin to accept it permanently as your new reality.


Breaking up with someone is never easy to do. But it is certainly possible to learn how to accept it if you take some time to focus on yourself and begin living your life as a single person once again.  And when you do, you can use these websites to find a partner – and you never know where that could lead you.


Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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