When a Meet and Fuck is a One Night Stand

When you meet people on meet and fuck websites, there are probably all sorts of emotions running through your mind.

Did we meet up for just this one encounter?

Are we going to ever do this again?

Is it proper to keep in touch?

The first thing to know about meeting people online for sex only is that you need to determine boundaries in the beginning.  With a clear understanding of what each other has in mind, you’ll be able to react accordingly and not scare off your partner.

One Night Stands Advice

Should You Call a Girl After a One Night Stand?

Let’s pretend that this wasn’t discussed, as I know most of you ran to your destination of your meet up faster than Usain Bolt, made some small talk, and then continued to get down and dirty.  In my early days I never took the time to really get to know what my partner wanted until I found out the serious repercussions it can cause if it’s not laid out.

You had sex.  It was great.

You want more of it, but you don’t know if she does.  Heck, you don’t even know if this was her sneaking away from her man or her on vacation under an assumed name, or whatever other bizarre ending you could conjure up.

The next morning, you start thinking about how hot it all was.  Her smell, her reactions, her screams.  You liked her body, you loved how she adored yours.

So now what?

The time is right to put out a feeler call.  A feeler call is when you touch base to:

  1.  Make sure everything is good between the two of you.
  2.  See if there is a chance of meeting again.

I always lead off these calls with a simple “just wanted to check in and see how you are.  I don’t want to bother you, unless you want me to bother you.  I had fun and can leave it at that, but if you want to see me again, I’m open to that.”

That is a very non confrontational way to deal with it.  You may get a resounding “YES” to seeing you again, you may not get her to answer your call, or you may get shot down.

Whatever the action is, remember the premise of how you met her.  This was never planned to be a romance novel or story book ending, so please don’t be a stage five clinger and hang around hoping it all goes down like a movie script.

Chances are, you will see her again.  However, you have to go in with the mindset that you won’t.

The best way to handle this situation is to set expectations in the beginning – prior to intercourse.  I’ve had women flat out tell me it’s a one and done deal.  If she tells you that, respect it.  When you respect it, you’ll build trust.  When you build trust, women will do anything for you – even if they tell you they have no intentions of doing so.



Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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