How to Talk to Women With Confidence

I’m sure you have been out in public and seen a guy that is not that attractive with a super-hot girl on his arm. You might assume that he has money or he’s in a band, but sometimes he got that girl simply because he knew how to talk to her. If you work on your game and use common sense, you can get a girl just as hot as her, if not hotter. Here are five tips to help you talk to women and possibly end up dating one that you previously thought was out of your league.

Tips on Speaking to Women Like a Boss

Show confidence

The single most important asset you can have when talking to women is confidence. This is probably the main thing that prompts girls to be interested in you. It’s probably even more important than looks. If you are sure of yourself and carry yourself with a swagger, without being a jerk, you will soon start to date women that you previously thought were out of your reach. Women are drawn to confident men with a sense of humor about themselves and the world around them.

Talking to Females

Talk about her

One thing that you should realize is that everyone, both male and female, loves to talk about themselves. It is everyone’s favorite subject and the best way to get a dialogue going. That is not to say, you should only talk about her and nothing else. Talk about yourself and tell her some anecdotes that relate to your conversation, then bring it back around to her. She will appreciate that you let her know something about you and that you didn’t dwell on yourself. It shows that you care about her, but you are also interesting and have some stories of your own.

Connect with her on common interests

Ask questions without getting carried away to the point that it seems like you are interrogating her. Ask her about her interests, hobbies, and what she likes to do for fun. If you see that you have common interests like the love for a certain type of music, or a certain movie or book; connect with her and tell her what it means to you. This can lead into further conversation if you expand on that interest and talk about other things that are related to it.

The flirting process

So, you got the conversation going with some ice breakers and you have connected with her on common interests. Now it’s time to start flirting. One of the key components of the flirting process is making her laugh. Don’t hold back, but don’t force it either. If you think of a funny thing to say or a funny story relating to your conversation, spit it out. Don’t try too hard to be funny or it will backfire. If she responds well and laughs at your jokes, flirt some more. Escalate the flirting based on her reactions. If she doesn’t respond well or responds negatively, back off and don’t let it bother you.

The touching process

Now that you have started flirting and she is responding well; it’s time to use some touching to take things to the next level. Just like flirting, start small and work your way up based on her reaction. Begin with some light touching during conversation like placing your hand on her arm. If she is attracted, she will probably start touching you back. The better she responds to touching, the more you can touch. This escalates the flirting and starts building on her anticipation and arousal.


Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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