Where to Find a Girlfriend

So, you want to settle down? 

First off, I commend you. In our deviant society, most people just want to meet someone and fuck.  I know, that may sound vulgar, but it is what it is.

One thing that millions of guys all over the world are wondering is where to find a girlfriend. Some guys have better luck than others, but there are certain places that increase your chances no matter who you are. In this article, we are going to go over the best places to find a girlfriend and tips on making the right moves once you get there.

Where To Find A Girlfriend

Where to Meet Women Worth Settling Down With

Clubs and Bars

This one is a no-brainer, but it’s also with a caveat.  

Virtually every club and every bar that has a crowd is full of people who are looking for a hook up, but not all of them want a relationship.

The challenge with finding a girlfriend here is that the choices of women who are girlfriend material are usually slim. Most girls that frequent bars and clubs are looking for a fling. It is possible to find a girlfriend in these places, but you must take the good with the bad. Sure, you may find a lot of women who only want you for your body, but a little fleeting sex won’t hurt you if you are prepared for it and use protection. Finding female companions of any sort here requires a level of confidence and presentation. Know your worth and dress your best and learning to dance will increase your chances greatly.

Online Dating

Over the past few years, dating sites have almost replaced clubs and bars as the most popular and widely used method for looking for a date. The advantage here is that you have the tools and the time to make a proper presentation. You can post the photos of yourself looking your best and you can take time on your presentation and let girls know what you’re all about without worrying about being put on the spot and making a first impression in person. One major similarity between finding a date at a bar or club and finding a date online is the need for confidence. One major difference is that, instead of making an impression in person, you must make an impression using the written word. Form your messages carefully, check your spelling, and don’t ramble.

Social Media

Your social media account can be somewhat of a free online dating service if you make the right moves. Social media is good for you, in the search for a date, because you control what your life looks like to others. It’s good for the girl because she feels safer when a guy’s references can easily be checked by seeing how he interacts with people on a daily basis, who his family is, what he posts on his wall, how many friends he has, and what his interests are. It’s harder for a guy to be anonymous and girls usually stay away from guys who have a very minimal presence online.

Singles Events

If you check your local event calendar, depending on what area you live in, you are likely to find many singles events where people gather together looking for a connection. Contrary to bars and clubs; these places mostly have people who are looking for a relationship. You’re going to have to deal with immediate competition here and your confidence level needs to be high. Women usually have more choices at these events and the girl you want the most is not going to choose you unless you show that you are better for her than any other guy there. If you’re up for the challenge; you’ll find many prospects at singles events and have a lot of interesting fun finding them.

Now that you know where to find women you will want to settle down with, it’s time to think about places for your first date.

This guy doesn’t always agree with me, but it’s an interesting take nonetheless.


Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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