How to Talk to Women You Meet Online

So you joined an online dating website and have your eye on a girl. Not comes the next part – talking to her. What do you say? How can you come off confident and not desperate? What will it take to lead to a date with her? Follow these tips and she’ll be meeting you in no time.

How To Talk To Women

Taking To Women On the Web

It is OK to Flirt With Her and Tease Her

Not only is it acceptable to do this online, but it is a heck of a lot easier doing it behind a keyboard if you are the type that is shy with these kinds of things in person. You still will want to build up your confidence to be able to be this persona when in persona, and that can be crafted when doing it online at first and developing that kind of rapport with her. Be sure that she knows you are being playful and not being a jerk though, keep it light-hearted and use emoticons if you can.

Avoid the Getting to Know You Talks

This is such a boring part of talking with a girl online, both for you and for her. They don’t want your life story, and they don’t want yours. Save that for when you meet up for a date when the two of you are in the same room together. For now, keep it fun and interesting and make yourself memorable. If she really wants to know more about you personally, she’ll accept your offer for a date and you can delve more into about each other once that happens.

Be Exciting and Memorable

While it pays to always be respectful, that doesn’t mean that you can’t be a little edgy and exciting. Woman have scores of men wanting to talk to them online, so you have to be memorable. Add a light, playful element to the conversation and see how she responds. Again, emoticons can be your friend here so she knows you’re just joking around.

Ask for a Date

Remember that the main reason you are talking to a girl online in the first place is to go out on a date with her. Don’t spend days and days exchanging online messages with her endlessly without taking the initiative to ask her out. She doesn’t want a pen pal, so don’t be one. Once she is playful back and forth with you, throw out some date ideas and ask her to join you.

All in all, here’s to hoping you can follow these tips and not fail at this attempted relationship.


Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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