How to Let Down a Girl the Right Way

Let’s face it, you can’t be with every woman you have dated. If you are currently dating a couple of woman and have to choose between them, it can get really messy. You don’t want to end up hurting any of them by announcing that you are not going to date her anymore.

Letting Down a Woman the Proper Way

So how do you let down a girl for another without breaking her heart completely and sending her into an emotional wreck? It’s quite simple. Work on your timing.

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If a girl invests time in you and begins to like you, she will start having huge expectations out of what’s to come. She’s planning ahead of her time for this new relationship and by suddenly announcing that you are no longer interested in her will literally break her from the inside.

You have to realize that when she has already invested time in you and thinks that you might like her the way she likes you, she is actually going through a lot different emotions, most of which are positive. So a sudden news of let down can cause negative emotions like

  • Panic
  • Shock
  • Anger
  • Resentment
  • Or even relief

The kinds of emotions she will feel depends on her personality. If she’s the sensitive sort, she may go through a number of different emotions together when you let her down. So the best way to let down a woman is to be direct and honest. But don’t be brutally honest. Don’t tell her that you are letting her down because she isn’t attractive or anything that shows fault in her.

Try to come up with a solid reason. Bring in your business or other schedule to help defend yourself on why you are letting her go.

Keep in mind that you will be instantly labeled a cheater when you let her down. It doesn’t matter how much she likes you.

This is because when anyone puts in time in you to build a relationship, this is how they feel when sudden news of breakup comes.

Be firm in what you want. Don’t give her something to linger on. If you don’t want to be with her, make it very clear to her so that she doesn’t start hoping that there is still a chance. You need to tell her very honestly that you two are not going to work together. Give her plenty of reasons that are logical.

Another thing you need to keep in mind is to not make yourself look bad in front of her. If you are letting her go, don’t show the emotion of guilt. You need to show that you are perfectly fine without her. This will give her the message that the relationship she was hoping is now gone without the chance of ever happening.

Whenever you are ready to break the news, write down a short script and memorize it. Use positive words and don’t be harsh to her and she will hopefully avoid getting into a meltdown.

When you do this, you’ll be able to move on in your relationship and start dating new people.


Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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