How to Handle an Irritating Ex

After you go through your fair share of breakups, you’re eventually going to run into an ex that is so irritating that you’re having a difficult time dealing with him or her.  This happens a lot because let’s be real, most relationships fail for numerous reasons.

Yes, it’s true.

We are occasionally going to have persistently irritating ex-girlfriends and boyfriends that start pestering us as soon as we break up.

And then out of nowhere, after years have gone by and you two are no longer together, they may even express an interest in reconnecting.

No matter what your situation might be, if you have an ex that loves to constantly bug you and try to connect with you all the time, you know it’s really tough to get them to leave you in peace.

Please use the advice that I’m about to share with you today to learn how to deal with an annoying ex.

Handling an Annoying Ex

  1. Express Your Disinterest in Getting Back with Them in Plain English

Sometimes an ex thinks that he or she has a chance at getting back together with you because you haven’t clearly stated your major disinterest in this individual.

Sure, you obviously broke up with them at some point, but maybe you’re doing something that keeps them believing that they may have a chance to reconnect with you at some point in the future.

If you haven’t made things clear, it’s time to tell them that your relationship really is at an end and that you don’t want anything to do with them anymore.

So stop ignoring them when they start annoying you.

That’s actually the wrong way to handle this situation.

Instead of ignoring your ex and hoping the problem will go away, you have to get really clear with this person and let them know that it’s officially over and that you’re never getting back together with them again.

As an example, you can say something like, “I really had a good time with you during our relationship, but I’m sorry to tell you that our time together has come to an end. I’ve moved on with my life and I have no intention of getting back together with you at any point in the future.”

If you can lay it out to your ex like that, he or she will finally get the picture and hopefully leave you alone from that point on.

  1. Let Your Ex Know That You Do Not Want to Attend Social Events with Them and That You Prefer That They Didn’t Call or Text

On occasion, you may end up breaking up with somebody that is really social and believes in his or her heart that the two of you can remain friends.

While there’s certainly nothing wrong with this, it might not be what you’re hoping for with this individual any longer.

You obviously broke up with them at some point.

So you probably don’t want this person in your life any longer. And if that’s the case, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it and you don’t have to feel guilty about it any longer.

Instead of letting them continue to call, text, and invite you out for drinks, let them know that you’re done with this chapter of your life and that you’ve moved on.

If you answer their texts and calls in a conversational way, they are going to get confused and think you still want to talk with them.

The same holds true for social event invitations.

If you continue to go to various social events with this person, they are obviously going to experience mixed signals and think that you’re interested in spending the night out with them.

Stop doing this. Let them know that enough is enough and that your relationship is really over, even as friends.


We all have an irritating ex from time to time.

If you do not put this person in place and let them know the score, they’re going to continue to annoy you, irritate you, and ultimately bug you, so let them know the deal.  Move on, find a new romance, and leave them in the dust.



Tom Savage is a serial dater living in Miami Beach, Florida. In between pool parties, late nights, and an occasional day trading session, he likes to share his tips on meeting women online. You can contact Tom on this page.

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